I am a mom. And a damn good one. BUT, I am not only a mom. I actually do have a life beyond motherhood. I am a wife (a good one), a friend (a good one), and also a woman(a good one). I am a woman that would like to take a shower, preferably on a daily basis (it rarely happens), work (someday), explore my talents, and maintain my brain. I have bad days (who doesn't?). Sometimes my kids drive me nuts (if yours don't, then you are lying). But, I give them every ounce of attention that I can. They are fed, clothed, polite, funny, caring young men, that I know are going to grow up and be wonderful human beings.
I enjoy making my house a home and I am positive that my family agrees that our house is a home. I am happy crafting and doing activities that often involve glue guns and drills. And I know the boys love to help out. If they didn't, they would tell me (all of them, hubs included).
Why do I feel the need to explain myself? Because that's who I am. I don't like it when people say hurtful things and I don't like offending anyone. I hope that people read my blog and enjoy what I've said and get a good laugh at the ridiculous things that go on in a house full of boys where I am trying to maintain my sanity and keep chaos to a minimum. I also hope that people find my ideas fresh and can maybe take one or two with them. Or, I can take some of theirs. Give and take people. Give and take. As we say in our house, "Work as a team."
I blog (okay, I write a journal for the entire world wide web to read) because I know that my family and close friends like to see what is going on in the daily life of the Thor family. I also do this because I want to be able to look back on these entries and see all the challenges, and triumphs we have had over the years. I can't be all frilly and joyful every day (although I pretty much am), some days are not the greatest. Really. It's true. Some days just really suck. But, if I can't write about them as well as share all the fun things I am doing around the house, then those of you that don't like it, don't have to read it.
I write for my family. I write for my friends. I write for me. That's it.

I read that comment and I have to say I was horrified by it. I have been thinking about how to respond to it ever since because it really got to me. I think it was because it was so sanctimonious, judgmental and unkind but couched in "I am just saying because I care". It made me sad.
ReplyDeleteI think it is admirable that you are invested in making your house a home and that this gives you satisfaction. We are born with the desire and need to create. I commend you for doing so. I hope you and your commenter will watch this. It's very short.But so worthwhile.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RhLlnq5yY7k&feature=player_embedded
I find it beautiful, life affirming and inspiring. "Don't let the voice of critics paralyze you".
You are SO RIGHT ON that you are a mom but not ONLY a mom. You have every right to have a bad day, to express frustration and to still be an exceptional, loving mom. In fact being honest and venting sometimes makes us better moms.
More power to ya. I think you are great. And not just because we share a name :) Keep doing what you are doing.
Thank you. I appreciate that.
ReplyDeleteIn addition to my facebook message, I wanted to say that you inspire me to get off my ass every day and do something for myself!
ReplyDeleteP.S. I have a Cricut you could use anytime you wanted as soon as you move back to Minneapolis.... I'm just saying.
Kirsten,
ReplyDeleteYou are a strong, beautiful woman with a good heart that is full of love and devotion for your family. I am proud of you for addressing the insensitive, careless thoughts of a so-called "friend." You keep doing exactly what makes you "Kirsty"- crafting, mommying and everything in between! Love you duck. JENN
You forgot to write that you are a terrific daughter and your father couldn't be prouder!
ReplyDeleteI know this is a super old post & I've never commented on anyones posts before...I've started reading your blog...4th straight day now...not all day, just when I find a few minutes here and there :) And I have to say I love you..not in a weird way or creepy way but a refreshing way!! You're a great Mom w/ THREE boys under 5...how you do that I will never know!!! Please don't let one person ever rain on your parade...you are so much better than that!! Better than letting one person who is unhappy w/ their life so they judge others make you feel bad. Sad really. Anyway, I love borrowing ideas from you.
ReplyDeleteThanks!!!!!